Babysitters, Day Care and Overnight Stays

All parents as well as foster carers need a break and will at times have to leave their child with relatives, a baby-sitter or day care provision. A child/young person may also want to have an overnight stay at some point or times with friends.

It is important that the child’s social worker and the child’s parents (if appropriate) have a united and recorded approach to delegated authority supporting overnight stays and/or babysitting. This needs to be recorded on the child’s plan. This is also the case for Family and Friends Carers.

The service will be seeking to support the  child or young person having  the same opportunities to enjoy leisure time activities, like sleepovers, as any other child of their age unless there is a good reason for this not to happen.

Where there are exceptional reasons when you need to seek the permission of the child's social worker, a manager or a parent, or place specific restrictions on permitting a child to stay overnight with friends, this should be because of reasons necessary to safeguard the child's welfare. If there is such a reason, the required arrangements should then be appropriately recorded and these should be explained to the child in an appropriate way.

It may also be helpful to identify as soon as possible anyone who you may consider to be a baby sitter and discuss this with your Supervising Social Worker. This should be included in your Placement Plan and where appropriate recorded as part of the decision with regards to delegated authority. If babysitting or overnight stays are a regular occurrence you should discuss regularly with your supervising social worker.

Looked After Children have often led unsettled lives and usually benefit from being given good notice about staying somewhere different overnight.

A young person may also be asked to babysit; you should talk to your supervising social worker for advice.

Overnight Stays

You should only give agreement for overnight stays if it has been agreed that you have delegated authority to make such decisions. It is primarily your responsibility to find out all that you can about the people the child wishes to visit or stay with.

You should meet the adults, have an address and telephone number and make all reasonable checks that a good parent would make about the arrangements for the care of the child.

You should also know how the child is getting there, what the sleeping arrangements and how and when the child will return.

Overnight stays should be planned to ensure arrangements are made appropriately. Permission for overnight stays will hopefully have been discussed when the child is placed and recorded in the Placement Plan as part of your delegated responsibilities.

You should base your decision on the following:

1. What does the Placement Plan say about babysitters, visits and overnight stays?
2. Would the child struggle with an overnight stays because of their background?
3. Are you worried about the people or the activities they may be taking part in?
4. The age and understanding of the child/young person;
5. Whose idea was the overnight stay and what is the purpose?
6. How well is the friend or family known to the child?

The child and hosting adults should also have your contact details; know the plan for their return and what to do if they decide to come home early or if plans change unexpectedly.

You should only give information on a ‘need to know’ basis and record what information you have given in the child’s daily record. These discussions could be as simple as discussing bed wetting to more complex behaviours, if you are uncertain of whether this information can be shared, please discuss with your social worker or duty if this is an emergency or last-minute invitation. You should ensure they have any necessary health information.

If the child does not want information to be shared, then they need to be told that this could affect whether they can stay overnight.

Record any decisions and the arrangements in the child’s daily record.

Even if it has been agreed that the child’s social worker does not have to be consulted, you should still inform them as soon as possible afterwards (within 1 working day) and the social worker should inform the parents as appropriate.

If, as part of contact / family time arrangements, the child/young person is due to stay away from your home with family members, the child’s social worker will make all appropriate arrangements.